Onwards and Upwards

 To stay on track I tell myself these things

1. The most important person in life is the one you love, the one who shares life with you. Treat them as such. 
2. People I assumed would be there for me were not  - that's ok, just don't be disappointed because others pop up.
3. In the blink of an eye children and grandchildren grow up. Nurture these relationships because the  pleasure of having close relationships with them as adults is second to none.
4. Staying connected matters.
5.  Sharing mundane stuff -  it's  what gets remembered and cherished once people are gone forever.
6. I don't know if my life will be long or short. It doesn't matter really just eat well, drink well, stay fit, strong and moving.
7. If I know what I want, when I want it and how to get there, things always happen.
8. When illness strikes we only regret what we didn't do, not what we did.
9. Stuff and belongings mean nothing once someone's gone so don't hoard the crap.  Moments, memories and experiences  mean everything so hold onto them forever.
10.  I go for a walk or a run if I get overwhelmed. The beautiful trees, flowers, birds suddenly look magical. Then smile and people tend to smile back.
11. In my darkest, most hopeless hours there was always been something slightly ridiculous happening. focus on those things.  
12. I sort myself out and make my own decisions - it doesn't matter what others think or do.
13. I don't want to wake up one morning age 70 and realise I haven't done the things I wanted to do.
14. Employment is about is income not ego to me. It enables me to do things I enjoy.
15. Financial discipline matters to me no matter how much or little money I have